Hate Neglection,Love Recognition:)

Neglection:

These days I dont know why I have got this syndrome of writing about stuffs that value loads of emotions. But it is always soothing to write about intricate emotions because it gives you a mental satisfaction. Neglection is a syndrome that affects not one but loads of people. Now this time Ill quote a true incident, I was having a casual discussion with my friend, as she was typing a mail to all our team mates regarding a birthday party. I was looking at her window as she was composing the mail. It was a great mail. As she completed the mail, she typed the names in the message I was watching it casually, and finally when she was done I noted a pattern, the names that she typed first where the ones she knew very well and were her best friends and the name she typed last were the ones she knew less and were just friends. I also noted that she had left few names she had fwelt were not worth. I would probably do more research on this ascending order syndrome as I call because I just loved it.But this one is fine if we are just looking at a normal level,but sometimes this leads to feelings of neglection.Like if you are sending a mail to all your loved ones and if I apply this one it will lead to hurting results. But that would be good research to do. Someay I would love to do this research, to read people's mind through emails send to list. With this one Ill get into the real neglection process. Everyday we neglect so many things so many people, so many dreams.......While on one side we kind of neglect someone on otherside we select a few. We bias our decisions to the few selected. But I consider the height of neglection for example in instances like u had strived hard for 10 months to an year to get a project, but finally your manager takes all the credit and on top of that he decides the list of people for the project intiation party while you sit at a corner and watch things happen. I tthink this is the hardest thing to watch. I would also think one day when I manage things at any level my decisions shouldnt be just mine for things that I dont own. If it was someone's strenous effort I would like to give enough recognition and support to the views of that person than I would do to mine. That does not only bring happiness to that person but also gives me satisfaction that I didnt hurt or snatch someone's rights to prove my happiness. I think if I could love someone for their work and recognise and respect for what they desire, give enough respect to their views then I would atleast own the word homo if not sapiens. It is in these simple things that I will be able to find happiness. God resides only in those hearts that respect someone's views for what they have struggled more than their own. Someday I hope I atleast get closer to this simple philosophy and apply it to every move of my life.

Hate Neglection

Love Recognition:)

Todays motto:)

Ignorance and tolerance

I recently saw in a google search the following information, "Prejudice is born of ignorance,Tolerance is born of education."I read it twice and I was in all awe for the statement.How true! Once when I was in my high school, I visited my relatives place.We were sitting in a sofa. I was going on asking my cousin about few doubts in Science and she totally ignored me. I hardly realised why she had ignored me. Felt real sad. Its really hard when people ignore you. I till today dont know why she was angry with me. But for all reasons I know had she been in my position she would realise how it feels when people ignore. I did not lose anything by talking to her, but she lost her humble behaviour by not responding to me. This is just a small incident, I know all of us would have experienced ignorance at various stages in life. How does it feel when people ignore us is one issue, and does the ignorer really realise that he/she is just getting too pride is another issue. Ignorance roots up in various forms, but I think the base is always "why should I bother?!". If someone laughs at the way when somebody performs a deed then they are not far from being the part of ignorers. I just believe that it is our ignorance that has caused us to do so. Ignoring is a sign of haughtiness I think. So if there is something I can do as a change in my way of living, all I would see is not to ignore anyone. I dont take any pride because that makes me self centric, far from the goal of love. And for all my loved ones I just want them to know I never will ignore them even if they do that to me. Because this google search had brought enough memories to my mind, I dont want someone get the same memory because of me.

Tolerance, the next one in my list. I dont know why but I love this word. Read recently in a readers digest issue, "Tolerance is when you respect someone even when you disagree with them." It was lovely. So many of us use this word tolerate when we are not fit to. These days when we dont even respect someone with their due earned respect, we have no rights calling ourselves tolerant. I was out in my friends house one day. Her mother was a nice lovely lady, but she had told me harsh words that particular day because she cared that I drove alone to her house and it wasnt safe. I just took everything in wrong sense and there I knew I was highly impatient and ignorant. I couldnt tolerate her and I just walked out of her home and avoided talking to her. But she was a lady with good heart, she had told my friend that she was feeling bad for her words. I later realized it wasnt she who was suppossed to feel bad it was me. Because it was me who was not tolerant. Tolerance is a gift which cant be purchased with a 100 billion dollar cheque but can only be purchased with a beautiful pure hearted smile. Thats when you are neither ignorant but truly tolerant.

*Note:All the incidents in this writing are fictious, they are written to convey the idea and make the writing more interesting.

Trusty Firsty:My little daughter:)

I think the sweetest thing in this world is when people trust you. I felt it from Kothai. How much of trust kids have that their mother will look after them is very cute. As they grow probably its going to be less of your involvement but thats cool, thats how they will learn to trust more than one individual. There is a friend of mine, who confides everything to me. More than being her confident, its her words like "I trust you, I know you would listen to me..." are things that make me happy. I feel she has made my day. What more do you want in life than being loved and trusted.
Sometimes it sounds so simple after all trusting is basic human instinct. At times we are like OOPs! why is it hard to trust people around us:( I had another friend of mine who would always drag me to her PC to help her in doing her work. I was impressed because I thought she values me for my knowledge. One day while I passed her desk I saw her doing some code. I didnt take a detailed look but I knew what it was about. After few minutes, she called me to help her and ironically it was about the code she had already finished solving. I did give her the answer, I felt like asking her why do you ask me after all you have already solved it but didnt because truly she is the loser of time. By just not trusting people and herself she had lost so much time. Trust is a big time investment according to me. I always hear people say you are made for each other, but I think its the trust for each other that builds relationships.

Being a daughter and having a daughter:)

Being a daughter and having a daughter:)

Part 1:
Sometimes happiness comes to us in small packages.Its the same thing that you feel when you realize about the child your going to nurture.She is your little friend,a wonderful gift and happiness unbound. At different stages of life as a girl we go through different emotions.Being a little daughter we share our little secrets with our mom, respect the pampering that our dad gives.We grow along with the growing relationship of our parents,they cry when we do and smile when we do. As a sister we share our thoughts,we tell our desires to our sibling(s).They love us so much that they get sad when we are unhappy.And life moves on.We grow big enough that there comes a day when we have to bid adieu and go off.We become a wife,a stage where we take oaths to share our life. We start a new relationship where we learn understand and live for and with each other.A point where our only desire is to see other person happy and just wish that the other person also sees us happy.A life mixed with giving and taking.You move on with your loved one to nurture a new one,you become a parent(a MOTHER in specific).Its from now that we learn the word "our responsibility". We bond together to nurture a little one.Being together requires us to take decisions based on us both just like how our parents would have done when they got such an opportunity.Its an 18 years of united love,care and decisions that the little one should experience.As a mother its always expectations that you want to do something for the baby.If your wish goes unsaid or unheard you feel bad,but you realise that as a mother and as a parent your solely responsible for your kid to be looking at the outside world.You were the passage that brought her to life and you should always remain like her bridge bonding with ,her helping her make her own loving and truthful decisions.Its great to feel that you are mother and its even more great to understand that even when the world around turns down your views, for atleast 18 years from now you have a little big one whose going to be the best friend in your life.Its enchanting to watch your little one. Parents are the world for her and as she grows she will learn to get her own space and pour all the love to people around her.Its great to remember that your her true friend for life from now , so be loving to her even if it costs you lots of hurdles to take.